CATHOLIC MESSAGES - "Traditional Catholic Values - Serving People of all Faiths"
PART 1 of 2
HEALING MESSAGES FOR THE SOUL by Vincent T. Bemowski - Designed to bring you encouragement and increase your self-esteem and hope. 
* Difficult Trials and Sufferings
* Encouragement and Lessons of Christian Virtues
* An Army Is Needed To Help The "Poor In Spirit"
* God Is Love
* The Glory of Heaven
* We Need Christ In Our Lives
* Comfort for those who Mourn
* Possessed, Morally Corrupted, or Mentally Ill?
* A Poem for those who are Suffering
* Giving Thanks and Giving to Others
* Becoming More Like Jesus
* Random Acts of Kindness
* Christ is "The Way, The Truth, and The Life"
* "Voices"
* The Power Of Our Word
* Crying In My Heart
For many people the first THREE Messages are of the greatest help and comfort to them in their spiritual journey.  However, the other Messages also contain spiritual advice and/or resources that may help make your spiritual journey easier and provide some answers to your special concerns.
Please note:  As you read these Messages, the impact upon your soul, your emotions, and your memory will be greater if you also listen to some soft spiritual music.
Vincent T. Bemowski - Webmaster/Editor
Due to a long illness or because of disabilities going back many years or even a lifetime, people may forget you or take your sufferings for granted.  Therefore it is good to reflect on the sufferings others have experienced and to often think of the sufferings of our dear Lord Jesus, and how He endured them because of our sins and for the sake of gaining more souls.
"I (JESUS) have given my body to the STRIKERS, and my cheeks to them that plucked them (my beard); I have not turned away my face from them that rebuked me, and SPIT upon me.  The Lord God is my helper, therefore am I not confounded; therefore have I set my face as a most hard rock and I know that I shall not be confounded.  He is near that justifieth me, who will contend with me?  Let us stand together, who is my adversary?  Let him come near to me.
Behold the Lord God is my helper, who is he that shall condemn me?  Lo, they shall all be destroyed as a garment, the moth shall eat them up.  Who is there among you that feareth the Lord, that heareth the voice of his servant, that hath walked in darkness, and hath no light?   Let him HOPE in the name of the Lord, and LEAN UPON HIS GOD" (Isaiah 50:6-10).
"For my life is wasted with GRIEF, and my years in SIGHS.  My strength is weakened through poverty and my bones are disturbed.  I (JESUS) am become a reproach among all my enemies and very much to my neighbors, and a fear to my acquaintances.  They that saw me without fled from me.  I am forgotten as one dead from the heart.  I am become as a vessel that is destroyed.  For I have heard the blame of many that dwell round about.  While they assembled together against me, they consulted to take away my life.  But I have put my trust in thee, O Lord: I said: Thou art my God.  My lots are in thy hands.  Deliver me out of the hands of my enemies and from them that persecute me.  Make thy face to shine upon thy servant - save me in thy mercy" (Psalm 30:11-17).
"And it came to pass in those days, that he went out into a mountain to PRAY, and he passed the WHOLE NIGHT in the PRAYER OF GOD" (Luke 6:12).  
"And he healed many that were troubled with various diseases and he cast out many devils, and he suffered them not to speak because they knew him.  And RISING VERY EARLY, going out, He went into a DESERT PLACE, and there He PRAYED" (Mark 1:34-35).  
"And it came to pass about eight days after these words, that he took Peter, James, and John, and went up into a mountain to PRAY.  And whilst HE PRAYED, the shape of his countenance was altered and his raiment became white and glittering" (Luke 9:28-29).  
"And the Lord said: Simon, Simon, behold Satan hath desired to have you that he may sift you as wheat.  But I HAVE PRAYED FOR THEE that thy faith fail not and thou, being once converted, confirm thy brethren" (Luke 22:31-32). 
"When Mary therefore was come where JESUS was, seeing him, she fell down at his feet, and saith to him: Lord, if thou hadst been here my brother would not have died.  JESUS, therefore, when he saw her weeping and the Jews that were come with her, he, WEEPING, groaned in the spirit and troubled himself.  And said: Where have you laid him?  They say to him: Lord, come and see.  And JESUS WEPT.  The Jews therefore said: Behold how he loved him" (John 11:32-36).  
"And when he drew near, seeing the city, (Jerusalem) he WEPT over it, saying: If thou also hadst known and that in this thy day, the things that are to thy peace; but now they are hidden from thy eyes"  (Luke 19:41-42).  
"Then JESUS came with them into a country place which is called GETHSEMANE and he said to his disciples: Sit you here, till I go yonder and PRAY.  And taking with him Peter and the two sons of Zebedee he began to GROW SORROWFUL and to be SAD.  Then he saith to them: MY SOUL IS SORROWFUL EVEN UNTO DEATH, stay you here and watch with me.  And going a little further, HE FELL UPON HIS FACE, PRAYING and saying: My Father, if it be possible, let this chalice pass from me.  Nevertheless not as I will, but as thou wilt.  And he cometh to his disciples and findeth them asleep, and he saith to Peter: What?  Could you not watch one hour with me?
Watch ye, and pray that ye enter not into TEMPTATION.  The spirit indeed is willing, but the flesh weak.  Again the SECOND time he went and PRAYED, saying: My Father, if this chalice may not pass away, but I must drink it, thy will be done.  And he cometh again and findeth them sleeping, for their eyes were heavy.  And leaving them, he went again and he PRAYED FOR THE THIRD TIME, saying the selfsame word.  Then he cometh to his disciples, and saith to them: Sleep ye now and take your rest; behold the hour is at hand and the Son of man shall be BETRAYED INTO THE HANDS OF SINNERS" (Matthew 26:36-45). 
"And at the ninth hour JESUS CRIED OUT WITH A LOUD VOICE, saying: Eloi, Eloi, lamma sabacthani?   Which is, being interpreted, MY GOD, MY GOD, WHY HAST THOU FORSAKEN ME?" (Mark 15:34).  
"Blessed are THE POOR IN SPIRIT, for theirs is the kingdom of heaven.  Blessed are THE MEEK, for they shall possess the land.  Blessed are they THAT MOURN, for they shall be comforted"  (Matthew 5:3-5). 
"For when they shall RISE AGAIN FROM THE DEAD, they shall neither marry, nor be married, but are as the ANGELS IN HEAVEN" (Mark 12:25).
"For the Lamb which is in the midst of the throne shall rule them, and shall lead them to the fountains of the waters of life and God shall wipe away all TEARS from their eyes" (Revelations 7:17). 
"And God shall wipe away all TEARS from their eyes and death shall be no more, nor mourning, nor crying, nor sorrow shall be any more, for the former things are passed away"  (Revelations 21:4).  
Also, review again the sufferings and faithfulness of JOB.  They will also help you understand God's Mercy and kindness.
Written August 17, 2008
"I BESEECH you therefore, brethren, by the mercy of God, that you present your bodies a LIVING SACRIFICE, holy, pleasing unto God, your reasonable service.  And be not conformed to this WORLD, but be REFORMED in the newness of your mind, that you may prove what is the good and the acceptable, and the perfect WILL OF GOD. For as in one body we have many members, but all the members have not the same office.  So we being many, are one body in CHRIST, and every one members one of another. 
And having different gifts, according to the GRACE that is given us, either prophecy to be used according to the rule of faith; or ministry in ministering; or he that teacheth, in doctrine; He that exhorteth, in exhorting; he that giveth, with simplicity, he that ruleth, with carefulness; he that showeth mercy, with cheerfulness.  Let LOVE be without dissimulation. Hating that which is EVIL, cleaving to that which is GOOD.  Loving one another with the charity of BROTHERHOOD, with honor preventing one another.
In carefulness not slothful.  In spirit FERVENT. Serving the Lord.  Rejoicing in HOPE. PATIENT in tribulation. Instant in PRAYER. Communicating to the necessities of the saints. Pursuing hospitality.  Bless them that persecute you: bless, and curse not.  Rejoice with them that rejoice, weep with them that weep. 
Being of ONE MIND one towards another.  Not minding high things, but consenting to the HUMBLE.  Be not wise in your own conceits.  To no man rendering evil for evil.  Providing good things, not only in the sight of GOD, but also in the sight of all MEN.  If it be possible, as much as is in you, have peace with ALL men. Revenge not yourselves, my dearly beloved; but give place unto wrath, for it is written: Revenge is mine,  I will repay, saith the Lord.  But if thy enemy be hungry, give him to eat; if he thirst, give him to drink.  For, doing this, thou shalt heap coals of "fire" upon his head"  (because of your charity, God will provide him with the Grace to reflect upon his sins and will allow sufferings to come upon him that will help bring about his conversion,  should he be open to being converted since because of his free will he can accept or reject that Grace.  However, he will not escape the sufferings). Be not overcome by evil, but OVERCOME EVIL BY GOOD"  (Romans 12:1-21).
Written August 31, 2008
Many people suffer from one or more types of addiction.  It may be television or other forms of entertainment, smoking, drinking,  self-abuse or substance abuse, & their reasons involve escape - escape from the difficulties life offers.  They often look for help from others but only suffer disappointment because no one truly understands them.  No one has walked down the same path in life or has the same painful memories. 
Each of us is unique & cannot be placed in a category.  No matter what our age, each of us has different needs and has experienced different degrees of sufferings.  Some have suffered great mental, physical, emotional, or verbal abuse. Some are mentally ill and others suffer from physical illnesses.  And some have fallen into grave sin and feel lost.
Although innocent, some have guilt placed upon them by others that causes great harm to their self-esteem - guilt that they long to be freed from.  They go to bed with tears in their eyes, and awaken to more tears.  Their days are filled with sorrow and confusion as to who they are and what good are they accomplishing in life.
They have tried all sorts of ways to find happiness and contentment, only to find emptiness.  No one appears to truly love them.  There is a huge void in their life.  They need healing, but only experience more wounds or have old wounds reopened because of the indifference of those who should know better. 
However, JESUS knows those who are "poor in spirit" & through our prayers will renew them & heal them.  He knows they don't need lectures as to their lack of faith - many already have a strong faith.  He knows they don't need simplistic answers that fail to touch their heart.  He knows that above all, they need to experience kindness so that their hope is renewed.  The kindness that only those filled with the Spirit of God can show them.  God needs an army to help these souls - we must pray that our soul becomes pure enough to be part of that army.  
 Written Oct. 27, 2008
As you are aware, there are a great many unknowns, and your life can be very difficult.  But each day is a new day, and God reveals His kindness & mercy in many little ways.  He sees your tears and knows of your sorrow and fears.  He never is unkind like so many of our "friends."  Since He created you, to Almighty God, you are beautiful not only in appearance, but also within your soul when because of your love for Him you trust that He will take care of you. 
Our prayers do not always have to be expressed in words - God knows what is in our heart and His Spirit prays  FOR us.  When searching for the truth, we need not look very far, because JESUS is the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIFE.  All that we need can be found in Him - all we have to do is ask. At times the answers to our prayers come quickly, but at other times, because the Lord desires to teach us certain things for the good of our soul, the answers come at a later time. 
We do not always receive an answer in the way we expect it, but often are surprised by God's response. Sometimes we are initially disappointed because we don't understand the Mind of God, but later we come to realize the concern He has for us.
God is best described as "LOVE," and since we are among His creations, that love is indescribable and without limits.  He has given us the great Gift of a free will so that we are never "forced" to love Him. But when we do display our respect and admiration for Him, even if imperfect, we can be assured that He is pleased with our efforts.
The Lord knows our every thought and we can never surprise Him, but He does not take us for granted.  He takes delight in each step we take to grow closer to Him.
Written September 13, 2007
“Eye hath not seen, nor ear heard, neither hath it entered into the heart of man, what things God hath prepared for them that love him” (1 Corinthians 2:9). But it is also good to look deeper into what our Lord expects from us.  We know our brief time here on earth cannot be compared to eternity in Heaven where time does not exist.  We also know we cannot escape sufferings - we experience loneliness & fear & we are often disappointed.
At times we suffer physically, mentally, emotionally, or even spiritually - and special souls who are tested like Job experience all of these pains at the same time.  Through our tears we cry out to the Lord & ask His help & because He is good & kind, He renews our spirit & responds to our needs.
God is especially pleased when two or more of His children come together & petition Him for help: “Again I say to you, that if two of you shall consent upon earth, concerning anything whatsoever they shall ask, it shall be done to them by my Father who is in heaven”  (Matthew 18:19).
Therefore it is good to go to church & praise & thank Him, & if possible when we are at home it is good to pray with others in our family or with our friends.  Our prayers for those who become our friends are also very powerful in reaching the Heart of God & we know they certainly appreciate our prayers. 
As you also know, we can run from many things in our life, but we cannot run away from ourselves and our conscience. St. John has said that “we all sin,“ but we need to acknowledge our sinfulness in a humble manner to be heard by God: "And the publican standing afar off would not so much as lift up his eyes towards heaven, but struck his breast, saying: 'O God, be merciful to me a sinner'" 
(Luke 18:13).
Written September 23, 2007
Life can be very hard at times, and even when we are with our family or our friends we can feel very lonely.  We need Christ in our lives.  He fills our emptiness with His love, and constantly renews our hope.  All we have to do is ask.
So many people today "know it all" and have no need of learning true wisdom.  They have intellectual abilities, but lack an understanding heart.  You are not one of them if you remain open to God's Word for your soul.  We need the beautiful virtue of humility to grow spiritually.
There are many spiritual things the Lord would reveal to His children, but most do not have "need" of His Word.  Many claim to have "faith," but in reality they lack faith.  The Lord says: "If today you hear my voice, harden not your heart."   But as we know, in these times there are many, many hearts that are very hard.
Reading the New Testament is a good way to get to know JESUS.  The more you read It, the more your faith grows.  And the more you pray for OTHERS, the more JESUS is able to transform you into the child He wants you to be.  The most powerful prayers we can say are those said for others.
When we pray in this manner we receive the Lord's Peace, and become more aware of each little blessing we receive.  Of course, no blessing is actually "little," they all benefit our soul and enhance our lives.
Written October 17, 2007
COMFORT FOR THOSE WHO MOURN (Given to me by an 88 year old man who lost his wife - it is not known to me who actually wrote it)
"So many people see in death nothing but a cruel separation from loved ones.  Even good religious people make that sad mistake.
In death there is certainly the very real painand sorrowofphysical separation.  But it is equally true that our loved ones REMAIN WITH US.  They do not just go off to some dark and distant place. They simply continue into ETERNAL LIFE in a place of Peace and Joy.  We do not see them because we are still in the darkness of this world. But their spiritual eyes, filled with the light of Heaven, are always watching us as they wait for the day when we shall share their perfect joy.  We are BORN FOR HEAVEN and we end this life of tears to begin our life of endless happiness.
I have often reflected upon this beautiful truth and found it the greatest and surest comfort in time of mourning.  A firm faith in the real and continual presence of our loved one has brought the conviction and consolation that death has not DESTROYED them, nor carried them away.  Rather it has given them LIFE!  A life with power to KNOW FULLY and to LOVE PERFECTLY. With this new life and new power our loved ones are always PRESENT to us, knowing and loving us MORE THAN EVER BEFORE.
The tears that dampen our eyes in times of mourning are tears of homesickness, tears of longing for our loved ones.  But it is WE who are away from home, not they!  Death has been for them a doorway to an eternal home.  They are STILL WITH US, lovingly and tenderly waiting for the day when we, too, will enter the doorway to our eternal home.  It is such a mistake to see death as a separation and nothing more.  For us who believe, death is a PREPARATION for eternal union with those we love, in the peace and joy of HEAVEN."
Recorded October 23, 2007
As I am sure you have, I have seen numbers of Christians unjustly accused of lacking faith because they were severely depressed or undergoing a severe illness that affected them either spiritually, mentally, physically, and/or emotionally.  They were told, and therefore came to believe that somehow the devil had taken control of them because of their "sins" & they were suffering from the consequences of their lack of “faith.”  This is very harmful because it leads to a low self-esteem. 
It is very rare to be “possessed” by the devil, but some people wrongly assume that of others should they witness strange or unusual reactions in an individual.  With an actual “possession” NO DRUG will prevent the devil from viciously speaking through you or prevent the physical harm you may cause others.  This is the penalty one suffers when he, with FULL KNOWLEDGE, willfully agrees to live his life under the domination of the devil.
However for the vast majority of us, if we commit a serious sin & thereby allow the devil to come into our soul, because we still have a FREE WILL, we can refuse further temptations & ask the Lord's forgiveness.
When the soul becomes corrupted, sooner or later the mind is corrupted, & that person will no longer act in a rational manner (this happens to many people who choose to remain in their sins).  But this does not mean he or she is “possessed” - it means he has many sins on his soul.  Many so called “mentally ill” people who desired to, or actually did commit serious CRIMES, initially committed numbers of grave SINS that not only warped their soul, but also their mind.
Therefore, although they now can be “CONTROLLED” with drugs, they cannot be CURED by any form of medical treatments without first being “cleansed” of their sins. (Of course, other types of mental illnesses & forms of depression that do not result from the state of one’s soul ARE treatable with the proper use of various kinds of medications).
Written November 3, 2007
"'If I shall touch only his garment, I shall be healed.' 'Be of good heart daughter, thy faith hath made thee whole'"
I wrote this poem years ago for those going through especially difficult trials and sufferings.  It is hoped that those who read it and the Scriptures that follow it, will be renewed in hope and find strength, peace, and an increased awareness of God's love for them.
Lonely times, without purpose
Searching for promise, looking for gladness
Alone to expression, sadness without a future
Joy escapes my grasp, no one is near
Comfort lies in the distance, far from ability
Friends leave me, understanding has diminished
A happy song is not to be heard
A lovely Bluebird flies away too soon
Heartache becomes my companion
The days repeat their offer of sorrow
Family has forgotten their bond
Support is superficial, without foundation
Character has left, replaced by coldness
My heart knows not the love it seeks
My journey is long, and I am tired
Tears continue, pain overshadows my appearance
But God has knowledge of my trials
My disappointments He shares, He gives me hope
I am really not alone, He does not leave me
And someday, He will bring me Home.
"The Lord is my light and my salvation, whom shall I fear? The Lord is the protector of my life, of whom shall I be afraid?" (Psalm 26:1).
"My soul hath thirsted after the strong living God, when shall I come and appear before the face of God?  My tears have been my bread, day and night whilst it is said to me daily: 'Where is thy God?' 
Why art thou sad, O my soul?  And why dost thou trouble me?  With me is prayer to the God of my life.  I will say to God: 'Thou art my support.' Hope thou in God, for I will still give praise to him; the salvation of my countenance, and my God" (Psalm 41:3-4,6-7).
I don't remember the exact year or date, but I believe I wrote this poem in the year '2002' or '2003.'
"I give thanks to my God always for you, for the grace of God that is given you in Christ Jesus"
(1 Corinthians 1:4).
"And taking the seven loaves and the fishes, and giving thanks, he broke, and gave to his disciples, and the disciples to the people" (Matthew 15:36). 
Orginally sent to some of my friends on the internet, November 21, 2007
More & more I see that many souls are going through great sufferings.  Their pains may be physical, mental, or spiritual. And some experience all of these pains.  To one degree or another we become what we experience and hurtful experiences from our childhood often follow us into adulthood.
Therefore it is critical that we address those "inner hurts" and bring them to the surface so we can experience a healing.  If not, like an open wound filled with poison, they will continue to lie in our memory and erupt when things get difficult, resulting in us becoming discouraged & depressed. Especially harmful are the various forms of abuse that some experience when growing up.  This abuse may come from one or more parents, a brother or sister, arelative, or from others whose soul has become corrupted.
For some people, an inherited disease or an accident caused them to become disabled.  Still others must deal with the disabling effects of a condition caused by yet unknown factors.  With some their illness is visible, for others it is hidden within their heart.  Some suffer the painful loss of someone very dear to them.  And others suffer from a terminal illness which requires great faith & strength to endure.  For all of these dear souls, the holidays & holy seasons can be very difficult.
Simply quoting Scripture may not really help them - they also require encouragement that touches their heart so their hope may be renewed.  They need to know they are not alone & our prayers are coming from our heart.  Telling them what it means to have "faith" is not truly supporting them.  They already have faith, they need to know they are loved in a more personal way.
JESUS often prayed alone in a quiet place & through many tears sought His Father's Mercy & healing for our souls.  Jesus suffered more pains in His Sacred Heart than in His Body - all because of His love for souls. We need to more deeply imitate Him. 
Written November 23, 2007
I copied this from a leaflet distributed at a local church & thought you might be interested in the ideas it offers:
GIVE SOMEONE A HUG - Let another go first - say thank you to someone you usually forget about - donate food to the needy - visit a lonely person - help load or unload groceries - surprise someone with a treat - read a book to a young child - say hello to someone new - help clean up - walk a neighbors dog - visit a nursing home - do someone a favor - offer your seat to someone - rake a neighbors leaves - visit someone who needs a friend
- pick up litter - bake cookies for fire fighters/police - give a compliment - clean/shovel a neighbors walk - give someone an unexpected card/gift - wash someone's car - make a new friend - leave a thank you note - help a child with homework - play a game with a lonely person - give someone a balloon or flower - forgive someone - help another with chores
- share your candy - defend someone being picked on - call/write someone you don't often see - make a gift for someone - tell someone to have a "great day" - pay the toll for person behind you - make a meal for someone - offer someone a ride - buy lunch for someone - bring cookies to teachers, nurses, library workers - bring treats to work - hold an elevator door for another - drop off food for needy - double a donation
- volunteer time at church/school - compliment a stranger - take time to listen to someone - give blood - tip generously - speak kindly - offer to pray for someone - invite a lonely person to dinner - GIVE SOMEONE A HUG!
If you liked these ideas, please add some of your own, and/or pass this on to others.
Recorded November 27, 2007
It is good to remember each other because as you know, we are part of the family of God - His children.  Our days may filled with sufferings, but they can also be filled with peace when we learn to accept the Lord's Will in all that happens to us.  Life is a mystery and our journey is filled with many unknowns and constant conflicts between the attractions of this world, and the Guidance offered to us by the Spirit of God.  However, with the help of the Saints, our Guardian Angel and each other, we are able to have the strength to endure.  We place our hope in CHRIST, who is the WAY, the TRUTH, and the LIFE.
No suffering is ever “wasted.”  God makes good use of them.  They first of all benefit our own soul, and after we have been cleansed, they then benefit the souls of many others - some who are close to us, and others whom we will never meet.  It is always reassuring to know that if we remain faithful to God our name is written in the “Book of Life,” and therefore we really don’t have anything to fear. “If God is for us, who can be against?” Who is more powerful than Almighty God, the Creator of all that exists?
God also “hears the cry of the poor.”  When we feel down and filled with anxiety, and through our tears seek His help, God always comes to our aid and restores our peace of mind.Jesus tells us that His Peace is not like the peace offered by the world.  The world offers us material things - God offers us the "Things of His Spirit."
Along our difficult journey, we many times experience painful trials that affect us deep within our soul.  Like the Mother of God, many times a "sword" may pierce our heart.  We may lose someone very dear to us, or be treated harshly by those who should love us.  Only Christ can heal our heart, restore our self-esteem, and give us a sense of who we really are - a dear child of God.
Written January 15. 2008
We are barraged with “voices” all around us.  It seems every place we turn there is a “message” for us.  Even the Sacred Scriptures have been so over-quoted and misused that many people have come to mistrust Them.  More than ever, everyone today has an opinion, but few have wisdom, and that is what separates the voices who teach us what is good for our soul, versus the voices that preach things that harm our soul.
Vanity is so widespread that it is difficult to find a truly humble person.  Everyone wants to be a “star” - everyone wants to be “on camera.”  The newspapers, radio and television are filled with people with little to offer other than a big ego.  This is the penalty society must pay when people place love for the creature above their love for God - the Lord withdraws His Grace and lets them follow the evil desires of their heart and therefore they suffer the consequences - they lead a spiritually empty life without experiencing the Lord’s Peace.
People will endure severe weather and long journeys to attend a sporting event, but easily find excuses to miss a church service.  Sunday is no longer the "Lord’s Day,“ but has become a day of selfish pleasure.  No longer do people visit family members, the sick, or seek peace and quiet so they may hear the Voice of the Lord.
Many people today fail to turn to God to solve their problems but seek to escape the hardships life offers through “distractions’ such as working long hours, excessive drinking, or the use of drugs.  Evil continues to grow because those who have a sincere and deep faith in God are gradually disappearing. Although many speak of their great “love” for our Lord, the example they leave us is far from their sugar-coated words. They possess more self-love than a love that involves sacrifice.
What is the answer to living in a world gone "mad" with godless solutions to our problems?  The answer is CHRIST: "Cast all your cares upon Him, for He cares for you."
Written January 20, 2008
Our "word" is sacred - it represents who we are.  When we give someone our word and then break that word, we break a bond of friendship.  That person can then no longer trust us.  This "breaking" often happens between husband and wife, father or mother and child, a man and a women involved in a relationship, or simply between two friends.  It also happens between us and Almighty God.
In each case it involves sin.  Sin motivated by selfishness and a lack of concern, appreciation, respect, or love for the other person.  Selfishness caused by pride.  When we break a bond of friendship with another person we automatically break the bond of friendship we once had with God.  When we sin against another person we automatically sin against God.
Our word defines the state of our soul.  When we repeatedly break our word we add to our sins and the darkening of our soul.  Little sins are like dark spots within our soul that if not confessed grow to cover a much larger area.  A grave sin blackens our ENTIRE soul and God no longer desires to live there - our soul no longer is a place He wishes to dwell because God is a pure, HOLY Spirit Who will not dwell in a place that is impure or filthy.
When we sin against another person we hurt that person.  We can hurt someone emotionally, mentally, physically, or in a combination of ways.  We can destroy their peace, self-esteem, and confidence.  We can make that person someone who finds it difficult to express or feel love for someone else because he or she has not experienced our love.
We can harm another person with one grave sin, but that person can often recover from it.  We can also harm another person through grave or lesser sins committed repeatedly over a period of years, causing recovery to become far more difficult. Childhood abuse or abuse from a bad marriage can leave visible and/or invisible wounds that take many years to heal.
Please pray for all victims of abusive words & actions.
Written February 27, 2008
CRYING IN MY HEART (Written for those undergoing great sufferings)
The years are passing me by, my dreams are fading away.  My heart is filled with painful memories, even my tears cannot wash them away.
My friends do not understand me, my family has grown colder and more distant.  I am told to laugh and have joy, but my spirit is downcast, my loneliness stays with me.
I search to give my life meaning,  But am disappointed no matter what path I take.  Do I lack faith in the Lord?  Or do I lack faith in myself?  Who am I?  Where do I belong?  Who truly loves me?
I am attracted to things that bring no light to my soul,  They only add to my burdens.  Each new turn in my journey brings me more suffering,
Every song I hear is a sad song,
My God, my God, has thou forgotten me? 
I want to be your little child again,  Innocent, joyful, content.  I want to dream the dreams of a child again, and fall quickly to sleep at night.
I think of Heaven but I cannot see myself there,
I have missed so many opportunities to do Your Will.
My friends advance in their spiritual lives,
But I have failed every test You have given me.
What do I have to give to you, my Father in Heaven?
When have I made You feel proud of me?
My hands are empty, my soul is filled with sorrow,
No matter what I do, I cannot forget my sins.  In the company of friends I put on a mask,  When they leave, I again feel worthless and lost.
How will I climb out of this dark pit?  Who will help me find myself?
Who is able to read my soul?  Who will give me a word of comfort?
Those whose lives are full have no time for me,  Those who pity me are not able to heal me.
Why O Christ, did you suffer and die for me, an ungrateful child?
Why O Christ, did you reconcile me with the Father,
And re-open the Doors of Heaven for me?
Don't You see that I am not worthy of Heaven?
Have not my sins contributed to the severe pains you suffered?
Why did You allow yourself to be placed upon that terrible Cross?
Why do You love me so deeply, my Redeemer, my Hope, and my God?
Written March 22, 2008